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The Aa horny couples level looked a lot like a regular bar. There were regular sofas, a nice bar setup, and televisions. The only difference was that there were locker rooms for clothing, and a notice saying that it was a BYOB establishment.
The next level was a bit kinkier, with private rooms and a wooden cross for a flogging session. The third level involved a series of beds, none with a single divider. I took a deep breath.
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They also explained that you had the right to stop mid-act if you are not comfortable. According to some regulars, people have actually gotten arrested for this in the past.
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Other things that were brought up was the BYOB policy, rules against sex shaming, a strict camera ban, and the policy that came along with the lockers. It was fairly straightforward. The first thing that I noticed was that people were friendly to me—way friendlier than I expected them to be. I spoke with older folks about our backgrounds, what they do, how they found things. The interesting A Little Rock needs help was that when I spoke to older couples, nothing really initially broached the subject of sex.
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It was that chill. The clientele were impressive in their own right.
They were upscale. They were, for the most part, the type of people who wear tailored suits and couture to work.
They were attractive, and educated. It was hard not to feel a little intimidated, Sex swinger party I was wearing streetwear and sporting neon blue hair at the time. I eventually clicked with a young finance guy and his girlfriend, and things quickly got hot and heavy. Admittedly, I was getting shy. People who know me might find this to be a bit strange, but hear me out. I generally only get naked and horny around people I know and trust. Even so, I found myself taking my top off on the third floor.
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But, at the same time, something in me clicked. After thinking it all over, I realized what it was.
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That went above anything I experienced before.
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That night at the club, I saw people of all shapes, ages, and sizes go at it. People twice as old as me were having sex while others watched. Wall Streeters mingled with roving artists. Everyone was into it, embraced it, and was happy. Going there made me realize how ingrained a lot of negative messages I heard were.
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